Tag: Real Estate Mediation
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What am I getting for my money when I hire a mediator?
What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator? When you hire me as your mediator, you are buying the opportunity, through a neutral third party, to evaluate with someone who is an objective “sounding board,” your real needs (personal, economic, spiritual, etc.) and to evaluate which dispute resolution process will…
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Teaching youth how to resolve conflicts.
Teaching youth how to resolve conflicts. I’m privileged to be an adult staff member for a National Youth Leadership Training (NYLT) course. It is a very satisfying experience and a lot of fun. One key topic on the course is how to resolve conflicts as a leader. This blog is adapted from this course. Leading…
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If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?
If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased? Absolutely not! I as mediator form opinions on many issues for many reasons. One of the primary things I do as mediator is to help you to evaluate the pros and cons of your position in a dispute…
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Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.
Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie. The first step to resolve any conflict is to defuse anger. But do not be afraid of anger. An angry person can’t lie because anger is a primitive emotional response. To lie, you must control your emotions and turn on your intellect. So when someone…
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How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?
The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement. Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and…
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The ingredients of any conflict – Feelings & Emotions
All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on feelings and emotions. Feelings and emotions – Many people let their feelings and emotions become a major influence over how they…
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Values – One of The ingredients of any conflict
The ingredients of any conflict – Values Values are important within any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on values. Values are beliefs or principles we consider…
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The ingredients of any conflict – Power
The ingredients of any conflict is power The ingredients of any conflict is power. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on power. Power – How people define and…
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Ingredients of conflict – Perceptions
The ingredients of any conflict – Perceptions Perceptions are part of any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on perceptions. Perceptions – All humans interpret reality differently.…
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Needs: an ingredient of any conflict
Needs are ingredients of any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are needs, perceptions, power, values, and feelings and emotions. Today, I am focusing on needs. Needs – Needs are physical requirements essential to our well-being. Conflicts arise when we…