Dec 182012

As in Climbing keep your perspective

Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

Looking at the previous two questions below, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

  • Task #12:  What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together?
  • Task #13: In a dispute, how did the relationship change?

The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

Your exercise now is to answer the same questions that you have worked through but from their point of view.   Maybe they think the honeymoon phase ended at a different time and way.  What was their vision for the future of your relationship at the beginning of the agreement?  How much money did they think they were going to make?  Was this agreement a stepping stone to something else?  Without trying to look at the problem from their point of view, will you both find a way forward?

Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman ( has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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