How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and… Continue reading How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

What if you truly disagree upon with your opponents?

Tasks for reaching a mediated settlement to a dispute The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs… Continue reading What if you truly disagree upon with your opponents?

Task #21: If something happens in the mediation that irritates you, what will you do to get back on task?

If something happens in the mediation that irritates you, what will you do to get back on task? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator,… Continue reading Task #21: If something happens in the mediation that irritates you, what will you do to get back on task?

Task #20: We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again?

Task #20: We all have buttons. We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the… Continue reading Task #20: We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again?

Task #19: What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view?

Task #19: Credible evidence? What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in… Continue reading Task #19: What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view?

Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically? Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs… Continue reading Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence?

Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection… Continue reading Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence?

Task #16: At what point did you first have any realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

Task #16: At what point did you first have any realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a… Continue reading Task #16: At what point did you first have any realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

Evaluate the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements.

Task #15: How did you evaluate the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a… Continue reading Evaluate the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements.

Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own. Looking at the previous two questions below, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own. Task #12:  What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together? Task #13: In a… Continue reading Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.