Category: Mediation
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How long should mediation take?
How long should mediation take? We have grown used to life happening instantaneously. What we forget is that despite all the fast and furious technology, we remain human beings. We may be more sophisticated overall, but are otherwise no different than we were thousands of years ago. Our thought processes and decision-making ability have not…
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The ingredients of any conflict.
The ingredients of any conflict All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in amount but most are present in some way. Needs – Needs are physical requirements essential to our well-being. Conflicts arise when we ignore others’ needs, our own needs or the group’s needs. It is important to not to confuse needs with…
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Task #20: We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again?
Task #20: We all have buttons. We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the…
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What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator?
When you hire me as your mediator, you are buying the opportunity, through a neutral third party, to evaluate with someone who is an objective “sounding board,” your real needs (personal, economic, spiritual, etc.) and to evaluate which dispute resolution process will best help you meet those needs. * You are buying my opinions and…
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What really motivates humans?
What really motivates humans? Before we get can resolve conflicts, we need to understand what is really going on. My colleague, James Cawood teaches and consults in major hostage situations. He teaches that there are only two basic human motivations: • Seek Stimulation • Establish (or Re-establish) Perception of Control It is somewhat hard…
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Task #19: What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view?
Task #19: Credible evidence? What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in…
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Who should attend the mediation?
Who Should Attend the Mediation? All parties involved in the interactions that gave rise to the dispute should be involved in the mediation. This helps me, as mediator; crystallize with the parties exactly what happened. A party may also be more candid with me when they know they may be faced with others who know…
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What is Conflict?
What is Conflict? Conflict occurs when people disagree and seem unable to find a solution or a reasonable compromise. The roots of these disagreements can arise from many sources including differences in personality, values, and perceptions. As a team leader, you will occasionally need to handle the differences that arise between members of your team.…
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Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?
Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically? Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs…
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Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?
Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute? As valuable as it is for me, as mediator, to know how to move a dispute to resolution, it is equally important, if not more so, for me to recognize when a dispute isn’t prepared for resolution and how to move it in the…