Ken Strongman, Esq. – Mediator

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  • Starlings v Blueberries – Last Friday’s ABA Representation in Mediation Competition

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    Starlings v Blueberries – Last Friday’s ABA Representation in Mediation Competition

    Last Friday I participated in the ABA Representation in Mediation Competition.  I was one of the judges of the competition.  It was a two day event held at Berkeley Law in Boalt Hall at the University of California, Berkeley Campus.

    As Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) becomes more integrated in courts and pre-trial procedure, it has been my experience that attorneys will have all of their cases referred to these processes. Therefore, it is important that attorneys adequately represent their clients in this ADR environment. The competition was designed to acquaint the law student with advocacy in mediation. The focus of this competition is on attorney representation of clients in mediation. Judging criteria are geared toward examining the effective combination and use of advocacy and collaborative problem-solving skills.

    The judging criterion was designed to reward those participants who use an effective combination of advocacy skills and a problem-solving approach in the mediation. The problem solving approach is defined as one in which negotiators learn about each other’s interests and BATNA (Best Alternative To A Negotiated Agreement), brainstorm options, and select and shape a solution that meets their interests and, where appropriate, objective standards. Participants were not expected to sacrifice their client’s interests in order to be collaborative.

    The round that I judged consisted of a 75-minute mediation session involving a community dispute involving starlings and blueberries. At the close of the mediation session, there was a 10-minute period during which each team analyzed its performance in private, followed by a 20-minute self-analysis period (10 minutes per team) for each team to evaluate its own performance in the presence of the judges, but outside the other team’s presence.

    I was impressed by the attorney advocates willingness to let their client talk.  They were confident in their own abilities to allow the opposition to ask direct questions of their clients.  This was refreshing.  One of my chief obstacles in mediation is the attorneys putting on shows for their clients benefit.  They forget that their clients will usually have to deal with each other long after the dispute is resolved.

    The 1st place team in this competition automatically advanced to the National Competition.  There were teams from all over the west.   Some came as far away as North Dakota.  I will never know where any team came from.  It would have been a disqualifying breach of the rules to know the law school identity of a team.  Only if a team from the west wins the national competition will I have a hint that I was able to judge their abilities.

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    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • What do I do in a mediation?

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    As your mediator, I am neither your friend nor foe.   All too many come into the mediation anticipating that they will “win over” me or that I will advocate on their behalf. Often when this fails to happen, and it should fail to happen, they treat the mediator as an adversary. This does not help them reach resolution and often creates a situation where the entire process is undermined, preventing resolution even where one is possible.

    As mediator I am on neither side of the dispute.  I am an impartial third party that wants the parties to resolve their dispute.  This means that while I may see both sides of the dispute, and may for many reasons, develop a professional opinion or gut instinct as to the reasonableness of the positions and the likely outcome of potential litigation, your mediator should have no stake in the outcome and should not be on your side or any other.

    The only way for me, as your mediator, to be an effective problem solver is to maintain my credibility and objectivity through neutrality. Help me by understanding this and supporting my position of neutrality.  Not only will this help me to resolve your dispute, but doing so will help you to understand and trust my motive in giving an opinion, regardless of whether it is favorable or not, and to gain confidence in the information I am bringing to you, both of which will ultimately lead to higher satisfaction with the resolution chosen.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • In Conflict, it is never a bad idea to have a cooling off period

    Margaret Heffernan final counterintuitive idea to encourage healthy conflict would be after a decision is made, declare a cooling off period.    Her suggestion is to ask everyone to go home and think about the decision on their own as well as discuss it with their associates.  Then come back after a prescribed amount of time and ask the group: does the decision still look great?

    In the real world that is a great idea but not always practical.   That is why I prefer to allocate the entire day to my mediations.   It allows everyone time to cool off through out the day and to make the emotional journey towards a great settlement.  It is still an emotional journey even if the dispute is a multi-million dollar construction defect case or paten infringement case.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Why I joined the ADR section – article

    Here is the article that was just published in the Contra Costa Lawyer, Volume 26, Number 1- January 2013.  I am starting an exciting years as Chair of the ADR Section of the Contra Costa Bar Association.

    Meet Your Section Leaders – Alternative Dispute Resolution

    Ken Strongman

    How has section membership benefited your practice?

    I joined the ADR Section so that I could be on the cutting edge of the way we resolve disputes in our so­ciety, including the way we litigate in California. I did it so that my cor­porate clients would always benefit from the earliest thoughts and pro­cesses available and that my media­tion practice would correspondingly expand and be the best it could be.

    On my own, I would have had zero influence on the profession. As part of the ADR section, we collectively help direct the future of Alternative Dispute Resolu­tion processes in Contra Costa and the State of Califor­nia. This has allowed my practice to be in the forefront of ADR. Rarely will my general counsel clients be criti­cized for selecting me as a mediator. They are able to confidently tell their parties that they tried everything to avoid litigating and incurring additional legal fees and their company bosses can then assure their direc­tors and shareholders that they have retained the best.

    Besides being on the forefront of ADR, we are able to ad­vise Courts and members of the Bar as to the best prac­tices ADR has to offer. Currently, we are actively help­ing the Courts develop rules, policies and procedures to avoid having justice grind to a halt in our current Court budget crisis. I am also able to modify my practice to pre­pare for the coming changes in rules, policies and proce­dures.

    At every one of our programs, be it a formal presentation or informal roundtable, I learn something new that will benefit my mediation practice in concrete ways. Every one of our events is designed to benefit the ADR practi­tioner – whether it be a roundtable on mediation prac­tice marketing, or our yearly specialized class on How to Mediate with Self Represented Litigants.

    Why should someone join the ADR Section?

    By joining the section, ADR practitioners and those who participate in ADR as an advocate for their clients will benefit themselves and their clients in knowing the direction of dispute resolution in Contra Costa and the way litigation will occur in California in the continuing Court budget crisis

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Imagine you cannot do what you all want to do.

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    Imagine you cannot do what you all want to do.  Management expert Margaret Heffernan postulated this counterintuitive idea learned in her years running businesses and organizations in her TEDGlobal 2012 presentation.

    In other words, think about what you would do if you could fire someone, if you could change the timetable, or if you were allowed to cancel the deal. If you could do any of those things — would you still proceed with your plan? What are the hidden orthodoxies nobody is challenging?

    To resolve conflicts we all have to think outside the box.  Often times in mediation, what one party wants can’t happen.   This occurs even if they would have won in court.   The mediator’s job is to help them to see what the various true outcomes might be.

    Margaret Heffernan (born 1955) is an international businesswoman and writer. She was born in Texas, raised in the Netherlands, educated at Cambridge University and settled in the UK near the city of Bath.

    She is the author of five books: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman’s Manifesto about Business and What Really Matters, How She Does It (published in paperback as Women on Top), Willful Blindness: Why We Ignore the Obvious at our Peril, A Bigger Prize: Why Competition isn’t Everything and How We Do Better, and Beyond Measure – a short book commissioned by TED. While Heffernan’s first two books focused on these issues as they impact women in the workplace, her overarching theme has been the need to recognize and release the talent that often lies buried inside organizations, under-valued and under-rewarded because it is unconventional. Heffernan’s voice is primarily one of critical challenge, taking little at face value and regularly questioning received wisdom.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

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    As in Climbing keep your perspective

    Task #14: Looking at the previous two questions, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

    Looking at the previous two questions below, where do you think THEIR perspective differs from your own.

    • Task #12:  What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together?
    • Task #13: In a dispute, how did the relationship change?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    Your exercise now is to answer the same questions that you have worked through but from their point of view.   Maybe they think the honeymoon phase ended at a different time and way.  What was their vision for the future of your relationship at the beginning of the agreement?  How much money did they think they were going to make?  Was this agreement a stepping stone to something else?  Without trying to look at the problem from their point of view, will you both find a way forward?

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Listen for what is NOT being said.

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    Listening to what is not being said

    Listen for what is NOT being said

    Listen for what is NOT being said is counter-intuitive, but very important.  You need to find the elephant in the room.   Listening for what is not being said is the primary job of the mediator.  What we do is listen, clarify and re-frame.  We may notice trends that people embroiled in the conversation simply can’t see.   We give our impressions – not recommendations.

    Margaret Heffernan postulated this counter-intuitive idea by using the following re-framing questions:

    • If the conversation is being framed about money, consider what is not being talked about.
    • If everyone’s talking technology, what have they left out of their equation?

    the key component of a successful mediation

    Listening is most likely the key component of a successful mediation.  Everyone has to listen to all aspects of the conflict in safe surroundings.  That’s why I say that mediation is conflict at its best.

    Margaret Heffernan (born 1955) is an international businesswoman and writer. She was born in Texas, raised in the Netherlands, educated at Cambridge University and settled in the UK near the city of Bath.

    She is the author of five books: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman’s Manifesto about Business and What Really Matters, How She Does It (published in paperback as Women on Top), Willful Blindness: Why We Ignore the Obvious at our Peril, A Bigger Prize: Why Competition isn’t Everything and How We Do Better, and Beyond Measure – a short book commissioned by TED.

    While Heffernan’s first two books focused on these issues as they impact women in the workplace, her overarching theme has been the need to recognize and release the talent that often lies buried inside organizations, under-valued and under-rewarded because it is unconventional. Heffernan’s voice is primarily one of critical challenge, taking little at face value and regularly questioning received wisdom.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • How to stay on the cutting edge of mediation

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    Cutting edge of mediation

    How to stay on the cutting edge of mediation

    The cutting edge of mediation. Recently, I wrote an article for our local Bar Association Journal on why someone would want to join the ADR section of the Bar.  As the new Chair of the ADR section, was also needed to describe how membership has benefited my practice.  It was an easy assignment.

    Some would want you to join the ADR Section so that you can give back to the legal community. I didn’t join for that reason.  I became involved so that I could be on the cutting edge of the way we resolve disputes in our society.  That includes the way we litigate in California.  I did it so that my corporate clients would always benefit by the earliest thoughts and processes available. Also, that my mediation practice would correspondingly expand and be the best it could be.

    On my own, I would have had zero influence on the profession.   As part of the ADR section, we collectively help direct the future of Alternative Dispute Resolution processes in Contra Costa and the State of California.  This has allowed my practice to be in the forefront of ADR.  Rarely will my general counsel clients be criticized for selecting me as a mediator.  They are able to confidently tell their parties that they tried everything to avoid litigating and incurring additional legal fees and their company bosses can then assure their directors and shareholders that they have retained the best.

    Besides being on the forefront of ADR, we are able to advise Courts and members of the Bar as to the best practices ADR has to offer.  Currently, we are actively helping the Courts develop rules, policies and procedures to avoid having justice grind to a halt in our current Court budget crisis. As leader of the ADR section, I see the new processes way before presentation to the general public and legal community.  We are making suggestions that would influence the result.  I am also able to modify my practice to prepare for the coming changes in rules, policies and procedures.

    The ADR Section

    Within the ADR section by virtue of being around other mediators, we mentor each other on a continuous basis.  At every one of our programs I learn something new that will benefit my mediation practice in concrete ways.  It doesn’t have to be the formal presentations to be useful.  It is often the informal conversations with other members that are the most helpful to my practice.

    Every one of our events benefit the ADR practitioner.  Last year we held a round table on mediation practice marketing.  I came away with several ideas to help market my practice through social media.  At the same presentation, I learned what not to do so that I could spend little time and money marketing and more time devoted to mediating complex disputes.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Task #13: In a dispute, how did the relationship change?

    Task #13: In a dispute, how did the relationship change?

    How did the relationship change? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    At some point in the past, you thought you had a good relationship.  What happened? What were the important changes to your understands as the situation developed and changed?  Why did the honeymoon end?   Obviously, your vision of what was supposed to happened did not materialize the way you thought it would.   You need to clearly outline what exactly happened to be able to find a way forward.   This is an important exercise for two reasons.  First, you do not want to repeat the actions that got you into the current dispute.  Second, without knowing how you got here today, you will not be able to find a successful way out of the dispute.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Find Allies in Your Opponent in a Conflict.

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    Look for Allies

    Find Allies in Your Opponent in a Conflict.

    Find Allies:  Management expert Margaret Heffernan postulated this counter intuitive idea learned in her years running businesses and organizations in her TEDGlobal 2012 presentation.

    Naturally, the first ally you should seek is your mediator.  As a mediator, it is my job to be your ally and to help you make your opponent an ally to settlement as well.  We do this together by asking tough questions.  Besides the tough questions about the dispute, I also ask broader based questions.

    Ms. Heffernan suggested several general questions to help in this process:

    • Are you okay with this?
    • Does anything about this bother you?
    • Is there another way to frame this question?

    Having allies allows you to work together

    Having allies allows you to work together to be creative and solve the problem.  In her talk, Heffernan shared a stunning statistic: 85% of executives had concerns with their company that they were afraid to raise, out of fear of the conflict that would ensue. Heffernan warns that this not only means that businesses aren’t getting the best work out of their employees, but that issues which could be nipped in the bud internally perpetuate themselves.  Therefore don’t avoid conflict – embrace it.

    Margaret Heffernan

    Margaret Heffernan (born 1955) is an international businesswoman and writer. She was born in Texas, raised in the Netherlands, educated at Cambridge University and settled in the UK near the city of Bath.

    She is the author of five books: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman’s Manifesto about Business and What Really Matters, How She Does It (published in paperback as Women on Top), Willful Blindness: Why We Ignore the Obvious at our Peril, A Bigger Prize: Why Competition isn’t Everything and How We Do Better, and Beyond Measure – a short book commissioned by TED.

    While Heffernan’s first two books focused on these issues as they impact women in the workplace, her overarching theme has been the need to recognize and release the talent that often lies buried inside organizations, under-valued and under-rewarded because it is unconventional. Heffernan’s voice is primarily one of critical challenge, taking little at face value and regularly questioning received wisdom.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.