Podcast – How do engineers prepare for mediation?

Podcast – How do engineers prepare for mediation? How does an civil engineer prepare for mediation? With over 750,000 downloads of the Engineering Career Coach’s podcast, I was honored to be interviewed regarding the use of mediation in civil engineering and construction disputes by Chris Knutson, P.E. The link to the podcast: Web Down Load… Continue reading Podcast – How do engineers prepare for mediation?

I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral. Most Mediators describe themselves as being a neutral.  It doesn’t help that the courts and clients expect us to be neutral and describes us as such.  But mediators in Europe have difficulty with the description. In the German Language the term for neutral most closely translates back… Continue reading I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

Podcast – Mediation in Civil Engineering and Construction: what is the role of engineers?

Podcast – Mediation in Civil Engineering and Construction: What is the role of engineers? Recently, I was interviewed by Chris Knutson, P.E., regarding the role of engineers in mediation of civil engineering and construction projects. It was a lively interview considering that he is in Stuttgart, Germany while I’m in California. Here’s the link to… Continue reading Podcast – Mediation in Civil Engineering and Construction: what is the role of engineers?

If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

  If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased? Absolutely not!  I as mediator form opinions on many issues for many reasons. One of the primary things I do as mediator is to help you to evaluate the pros and cons of your position in a dispute… Continue reading If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

Podcast – How to use Mediation in Civil Engineering with the Engineering Career Coach

Podcast – How to use Mediation in Civil Engineering with the Engineering Career Coach I am excited to present my podcast interview with the Engineering Career Coach. With over 750,000 podcast downloads, they sought me out to explain how mediation is useful in the civil engineering and construction fields. Here are the links to the… Continue reading Podcast – How to use Mediation in Civil Engineering with the Engineering Career Coach

How do you persuade someone if you think you are right and they are wrong?

Persuasion is the process of changing minds. Persuasion is an everyday part of human discourse. It is used by salesmen, parents, teachers, and many others – basically all of us. Persuasion in mediation is a two-way street. Long before you try to influence another to moderate their demands or consider the other side’s point of… Continue reading How do you persuade someone if you think you are right and they are wrong?

Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.

Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie. The first step to resolve any conflict is to defuse anger.  But do not be afraid of anger.  An angry person can’t lie because anger is a primitive emotional response.  To lie, you must control your emotions and turn on your intellect.  So when someone… Continue reading Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.

How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and… Continue reading How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

What if you truly disagree upon with your opponents?

Tasks for reaching a mediated settlement to a dispute The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs… Continue reading What if you truly disagree upon with your opponents?

How do you persuade someone if you think you are right and they are wrong?

Persuasion is the process of changing minds. Persuasion is an everyday part of human discourse. It is used by salesmen, parents, teachers, and many others – basically all of us. Persuasion in mediation is a two-way street. Long before you try to influence another to moderate their demands or consider the other side’s point of… Continue reading How do you persuade someone if you think you are right and they are wrong?