What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator?

When you hire me as your mediator, you are buying the opportunity, through a neutral third party, to evaluate with someone who is an objective “sounding board,” your real needs (personal, economic, spiritual, etc.) and to evaluate which dispute resolution process will best help you meet those needs. *    You are buying my opinions and… Continue reading What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator?

Who should attend the mediation?

 Who Should Attend the Mediation?  All parties involved in the interactions that gave rise to the dispute should be involved in the mediation. This helps me, as mediator; crystallize with the parties exactly what happened. A party may also be more candid with me when they know they may be faced with others who know… Continue reading Who should attend the mediation?

Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?

 Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute? As valuable as it is for me, as mediator, to know how to move a dispute to resolution, it is equally important, if not more so, for me to recognize when a dispute isn’t prepared for resolution and how to move it in the… Continue reading Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?

If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

  If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased? Absolutely not!  I as mediator form opinions on many issues for many reasons. One of the primary things I do as mediator is to help you to evaluate the pros and cons of your position in a dispute… Continue reading If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?

I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do? I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?  Don’t let yourself get stuck refusing to make what you believe is a reasonable settlement offer or demand based on your… Continue reading I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?

I’ve been in mediation and there was so much conflict that nothing got done. Wouldn’t I be better off just going to court?

I’ve been in mediation and there was so much conflict that nothing got done. Wouldn’t I be better off just going to court? This is an option, but you may not resolve your dispute. Mediation is not about coming to the table as friends to avoid conflict and confrontation, as many professionals would have you… Continue reading I’ve been in mediation and there was so much conflict that nothing got done. Wouldn’t I be better off just going to court?

What do I do in a mediation?

As your mediator, I am neither your friend nor foe.   All too many come into the mediation anticipating that they will “win over” me or that I will advocate on their behalf. Often when this fails to happen, and it should fail to happen, they treat the mediator as an adversary. This does not help… Continue reading What do I do in a mediation?

FAQ: What is the Comprehensive Mediation Agreement?

FAQ: What is the Comprehensive Mediation  Agreement? In order to ensure all parties understand the status and implications involved, a comprehensive Mediation Agreement dealing with issues such as confidentiality, admissibility and privilege in relation to documentation and information exchanged must be agreed in advance. The Mediation Agreement will also deal with the costs of the… Continue reading FAQ: What is the Comprehensive Mediation Agreement?