Is it just better to go to court to avoid the conflict?

I’ve been in mediation and there was so much conflict that nothing got done. Wouldn’t I be better off just going to court?

This is an option, but you may not resolve your dispute. Mediation is not about coming to the table as friends to avoid conflict and confrontation, as many professionals would have you believe. It’s about resolving disputes. Inherent in the concept of “dispute” is conflict and without confrontation of that conflict head-on, there may be settlement, but there may be no true resolution.

In some disputes, settlement itself may be enough, but in most, in addition to the economic or performance related issues, there is an undercurrent of emotion, and both sides often perceive themselves as a “victim” in the dispute. Those complaining of a wrong see themselves as the aggrieved party. Those responding, because they often believe they are involved in the dispute needlessly, feel abused by the claimant and the dispute process, particularly when facing the burdens of litigation.

You may wish to avoid confrontation at the outset but may find, as the process continues, that you want to express yourself to other parties. Make sure you talk to me as your mediator to allow this flexibility. In a truly meaningful mediation, in addition to providing valuable information to you about the dispute, I will guide you safely through confrontation of the conflict to resolution.

Remember that Mediation is Conflict at its best.

About the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator. He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment. He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.