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  • Task #5: Do you really want to settle this dispute through mediation?

    Task #5: Do you really want to settle this dispute through mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    The purpose of mediation is to reach a voluntary agreement with the other parties.  It is not something imposed upon the parties by the mediator. It’s your choice to decide to reach a voluntary agreement rather than to continue to fight.

    Task #5: Can you work towards a voluntary agreement if it would satisfy your interests and the interests of the other parties?

    You will need to discuss this issue with your attorney and the mediator.  If you are not willing to cooperate with the other parties to find a voluntary solution to the problem, then your attorney and the mediator need to decide if a mediation session at this time is appropriate.   It would not benefit you, if you were not willing to arrive at a solution the dispute.

    As the mediator, I would want to discuss with you and your attorney what the impediments to reaching a solution to the problem.   Once these impediments are identified, we can develop potential solutions.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Thoughts from a former student on learning ethics.

    Thoughts from a former student on learning ethics.

    Thoughts from a former student on learning ethics is one of the privileges of teaching is getting feedback from my students’ years after I taught them.  Here is a recent example:

    Ken taught me the importance of ethical behavior in all dealings, personal and profession. He also is a great model of patience and listening, which is why he is such an excellent teacher and mediator.

    Nancy Krieg, Law Student, William Mitchell College of Law, Saint Paul, MN

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #4: How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    Task #4: How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #4: How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    In the previous task, you were asked to describe what you wanted life and/or business to look like five years after the dispute has been resolved.   This task is more focused on how you are going to deal with your opponents five to ten years after the dispute is resolved.

    The easy answer to this question is that ‘I never want anything to do with them again.’  If the dispute is an automobile accident then that might work as an answer.  But if your opponents are commercial suppliers, customers, fellow businesses in a limited market, employees or employers, neighbors, and even family, the question becomes a lot more challenging.

    I have mediated boundary line and other disputes between neighbors.  It becomes a lot more difficult to resolve when both neighbors realize that they will still be living next door to each other for possibly decades.  I have also mediated disputes with family owned business.  They had to take into account the likelihood of having to sit down for Thanksgiving dinner with each other.  There were also the unintended impacts on other family relationships that were not in dispute.  Commercial enterprises need to evaluate the publicity of the dispute and the possible need for an on going business relationship now and in the future.

    Carefully list and count the costs regarding different solutions to the dispute.  Might there be a better settlement that reduces future conflict.  Also evaluate the costs of litigating the dispute to its conclusion on the future relationship to your opponents.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #3: Visualize the future beyond the dispute.

    Task #3: Visualize the future beyond the dispute.

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #3:  Where do you want to be in five years after this mediation? 

    Develop a basic description or visualize what life and/or business would be like in five to ten years?  What does life and/or business look like after the resolution of this dispute?  How will you spend your time, money and talent?

    The purpose of this exercise is to get you to think what life might be like after the resolution of this dispute.  Right now you are in the middle of the dispute and its immediate aftermath.  You have spent time – a lot of time, money and energy on various aspects of the dispute.   If it is a commercial dispute, you will have gone through the disruption of preparing and doing the discovery process.  If it is personal injury, you will have endured lost work while being deposed in depositions.  You have spent considerable time wondering if you will win in court.  Have you spent time thinking about life after the dispute is resolved.  What does that look like?

    Discuss this with your attorney and confidentially with your mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #2: What do they want out of the mediation?

    Task #2: What do they want out of the mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #2:  What do they want?

    You know that you have interests that need to be satisfied when you attend the mediation, the other side also has interests.  What are those interests?

    They have communicated their interests to you through a variety of means.  What do you think those interests are?  They can be money, time, minimize their risks, fairness, maintain a working relationship, etc.  List and rank them.

    It is important to realize that your legal opponents do want something out of the dispute and that they are willing to spend time, money and legal talent in order to get it.   This does not mean that they will succeed.  It just means that there are things you can use as bargaining chips.

    It is entirely possible that you might have some of the same interests.  This is also an opportunity to create a solution outside of the box.  Realizing this possibility will help reach a settlement easier at least on certain issues.

    Review the list you have created with your attorney and be prepared to discuss it in confidence with your mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Task #1: What do you want out of the mediation?

    Task #1: What do you want out of the mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #1:  What are your basic interests as you approach the resolution of this dispute?  List them in rank order.  Examples to consider are money, revenge, fairness, maintaining a working relationship, security.

    To expand one example even further: it is important to come to grips with what your future relationship with the other party will be.   It makes a tremendous difference in the solution if you see yourself having to socialize or to do business with the other party in the future.  Naturally, if it is a personal injury case such as an auto accident, there was little to no prior relationship and probably not much need for a future relationship.  But even then, you might want to leave open the possibility of a relationship.  It might be a slip and fall in front of a business that you have patronized and would like to continue doing business in the future despite of the slip and fall.

    The purpose of this exercise is to fully understand what you as a mediation participant really wants at the onset of the mediation.  Often by the time you arrive at this point in the process, it has been forgotten.  Review the list with your attorney and with the mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • When It’s Just the Attorney at the Mediation.

    When It’s Just the Attorney at the Mediation.

    At a recent seminar hosted by Gary Weiner, Mediation Program Administrator at the California Court of Appeal, First Appellate District, for the Court’s Mediation Panel, we had lively discussion about Provost v Regents, (2011) 201 Cal.App.4th 1289.

    I would like to focus on only one aspect raised by this case.  That is the ability of attorneys to participate in mediations on behalf of and in place of their clients.  In Provost, an attorney appeared for the Regents at the mediation and signed the term sheet for the Regents at the end of the mediation.  The ability for the attorney to bind the Regents to a settlement was raised upon appeal.

    The court found that the attorney was an employee of the Regents’ General Council office and was assigned to the case by the Regents’ General Council and vice president of Legal Affairs.  Also, the Regents’ ‘by-law 21’ makes the General Council an officer.   The attorney was also ‘fully familiar with the case and understood the seriousness and finality of settling’ within the Regents’ guidelines.  To top it off, the Court concluded that since the Regents’ did approve the settlement at a later date, they had given the attorney full authority to settle.

    It is very important to ensure that any attorney appearing at mediation for and in place of their client, have real authority to settle the dispute.   As a mediator, I make sure that there is adequate evidence that the attorney has authority to settle the dispute up to the demand of the other side.

    I learned this lesson the hard way early in my mediation practice.  An attorney appeared without her client and claimed fully authority to settle the case.  It turned out that the authority she had was to accept a dismissal with prejudice of the entire case and the ability to issue a promise not to sue for malicious prosecution.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • What do good mediators do?

    What do good mediators do?

    What do good mediators do? At a recent seminar hosted by Gary Weiner, Mediation Program Administrator at the California Court of Appeal, First Appellate District, for the Court’s Mediation Panel, we had a brain storming session on what good mediators do.

    Here are some of my gleanings from my colleagues:

    • A mediator quickly gets all sides to build trust in the mediator so that:  They believe and understand what I need to accomplish with them at the mediation. As mediator, I’m their new best friend by the end of the mediation session so that I can persuade them to do things in their best interest and to listen to me as a mediator.
    • A mediator manages the process so power is not considered to be one sided.
    • A mediator is a good listener so that ever one is heard.
    • Conversely, a mediator is selectively deaf to comments that are counter productive.  A good mediator re-formats the incendiary comments to keep the processing moving forward.
    • A mediator makes all sides aware of the needs and motivations of the other side.
    • A mediator educates all parties to their opponent has reasonable needs and motivations.  I start this process before the mediation and continue it through to resolution of the dispute.
    • A mediator educates each side on the worst case scenario if there is no resolution to the dispute.
    • A mediator will use what ever means is reasonably necessary to resolve the conflict.
    • A mediator helps all of the parties to resolve the dispute.

    I am happy to fully concur with my colleagues in these practices.

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    Ken Strongman, Mediator

    About the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • My Purpose for blogging: Where to we go from here?

    Where to we go from here?

    My primary purpose for this blog is to inform practitioners and participants in mediation, negotiations, other forms of alternative dispute resolution and risk management.

    I want to provide a mostly systematic overview of the full range of dispute resolution options: risk management or the avoidance and minimization of conflicts, negotiation, mediation, arbitration.  I also want to demonstrate how to effectively use each option for each situation.  From time to time, the blog will delve into issues involving legal ethics and social media.

    I want to have a dialog with you on these issues and thereby helping all of us to improve our skills and knowledge.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • FAQ: What is the Comprehensive Mediation Agreement?

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    FAQ: What is the Comprehensive Mediation  Agreement?

    In order to ensure all parties understand the status and implications involved, a comprehensive Mediation Agreement dealing with issues such as confidentiality, admissibility and privilege in relation to documentation and information exchanged must be agreed in advance. The Mediation Agreement will also deal with the costs of the mediation including the mediator’s fees and will establish how these costs are to be shared between the parties. An appropriately qualified mediator will usually provide a draft Meditation Agreement and it can be amended to suit the parties wishes before being signed by each of the parties and the mediator.

    This is standard practice for all of my mediations.  My mediation agreement includes the time and location of the mediation; any known apparent conflicts; the rules of confidentiality; due dates for briefing the dispute and payment of fees.  Generally, the fee is split between the parties but this can be modified by the parties.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.