Ken Strongman, Esq. – Mediator

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  • Our friend the Devil’s Advocate.

    Our friend the Devil’s Advocate.

    Our friend the Devil’s Advocate is the first of Margaret Heffernan’s counterintuitive guidelines. It is useful conflict resolution to appoint a devil’s advocate.  Someone whose excellence is demonstrated by the quality of questions they asked.  Great questions include:

    • What are the best reasons not to do this?
    • Why are we here today?
    • What don’t we know that, if we did know, would change our decision?
    • What is wrong with our case?
    • If we had more money or time, what would we do?
    • Where do we want to be in 5-years?
    • If this were a documentary, what would be the narrative arc?

    Generally, it’s important that different people play the role of devil’s advocate.  If it is always the same person, the group will tune them out and they will get burned out.  But it is the mediator’s role to ask these and other hard questions.  That is the only way we can achieve a useful settlement.

    Margaret Heffernan (born 1955) is an international businesswoman and writer. She was born in Texas, raised in the Netherlands, educated at Cambridge University and settled in the UK near the city of Bath.

    She is the author of five books: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman’s Manifesto about Business and What Really Matters, How She Does It (published in paperback as Women on Top), Willful Blindness: Why We Ignore the Obvious at our Peril, A Bigger Prize: Why Competition isn’t Everything and How We Do Better, and Beyond Measure – a short book commissioned by TED.

    While Heffernan’s first two books focused on these issues as they impact women in the workplace, her overarching theme has been the need to recognize and release the talent that often lies buried inside organizations, under-valued and under-rewarded because it is unconventional. Heffernan’s voice is primarily one of critical challenge, taking little at face value and regularly questioning received wisdom.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

    I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

    Most Mediators describe themselves as being neutrals. I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral. It doesn’t help that the courts and clients expect us to be neutral and describes us as such.  But mediators in Europe have difficulty with the description.

    In the German Language the term for neutral most closely translates back into English as ‘null’.  So translating it back to English, to be a null means a Mediator as a neutral is without value, effect, consequence, or significance. Further more a Mediator amounts to nothing and is nonexistent.  In math when a variable has no value, it is considered to be null. Having a null value is different than having a value of zero, since zero is an actual value.

    No wonder Europeans have had difficulties with the term neutral.  I am much more than a zero let alone a null.  The German term used to describe what a Mediator does is a better description of what I do without speaking German.  Their term encompasses the following ideas:

    • I’m parcel to everyone equally.
    • I’m acting for everyone and in everyone’s best interest.
    • I advocate for a just solution to the dispute.
    • I’m attentive to all the interests of the parties.

    This concept is better idea of what I am as a mediator.   I am not a potted plant just sitting there all day hoping that a solution pops up.  I work hard with the parties to find a just solution in a timely manner.

    Thanks to my Mediation Society Colleagues, Bruce Edwards, Patrice Prince and Dana Curtis for sharing this idea.  They attended the International Summer School on Business Mediation in Admont, Austria this last summer.

    Mediation Neutral

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • We need more conflict in our lives.

    We need more conflict in our lives.

    Management expert Margaret Heffernan postulated this counterintuitive lesson learned in her years running businesses and organizations in her TEDGlobal 2012 presentation.

    Her insight has great implications for successful mediations.  I have always contended that mediation is conflict at its best and her insight bares this out.   Heffernan has developed five guidelines for productive disagreement:

    1. Appoint a devil’s advocate
    2. Find allies
    3. Listen for what is NOT being said
    4. Imagine you cannot do what you all want to do
    5. After a decision is made, declare a cooling off period

    These are counterintuitive guidelines because it is assumed in mediation as well as life that we need to avoid conflict; smooth it over if we have to and compromise if all else fails.  Our job is not to avoid, smooth over or compromise, it is to find a better way.

    Margaret Heffernan (born 1955) is an international businesswoman and writer. She was born in Texas, raised in the Netherlands, educated at Cambridge University and settled in the UK near the city of Bath.

    She is the author of five books: The Naked Truth: A Working Woman’s Manifesto about Business and What Really Matters, How She Does It (published in paperback as Women on Top), Willful Blindness: Why We Ignore the Obvious at our Peril, A Bigger Prize: Why Competition isn’t Everything and How We Do Better, and Beyond Measure – a short book commissioned by TED.

    While Heffernan’s first two books focused on these issues as they impact women in the workplace, her overarching theme has been the need to recognize and release the talent that often lies buried inside organizations, under-valued and under-rewarded because it is unconventional. Heffernan’s voice is primarily one of critical challenge, taking little at face value and regularly questioning received wisdom.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Task #11: What’s wrong with the other side’s case?

    Task #11: What’s wrong with the other side’s case?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #11:  What’s wrong with the other side’s case?

    Now is your attorney’s opportunity to turn the introspection of your own case on its ear.  You need to list everything that is wrong with your opponent’s case.   You need to review this confidentially with the mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • A Recommendation from a McGeorge Law Student

    A Recommendation from a McGeorge Law Student

    A Recommendation from a McGeorge Law Student is one of the privileges of teaching is getting feedback from my students’ years after I taught them.

    Ken was an extremely helpful professor. He cared greatly for his students and was always willing to provide personal assistance to each and everyone of us.

    Stephen Hallett, Law Student, University of the Pacific McGeorge School of Law.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Task #10: What is the weakness in your case?

    Task #10: What are the weaknesses in your case?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #10: What are the weaknesses in your case?

    In this exercise, your attorney will need to take the lead in preparing your answer.  It is important that you understand its impact on your position.

    You need to articulate all of the weaknesses in your case.  These can be issues of law.  I have seen issues that involve the statute of limitations.  Other times, I have seen where the original complaint did not name the correct defendants.   These may be extreme examples, but no case is perfect.

    There can be issues of evidence.   It can be simple lack of evidence to support your claims.  It can be the credibility of the evidence.  Is it admissible or will its admissibility be challenged.   Seldom is there enough credible evidence to support each element of the claim.  Likewise defenses have their weaknesses as well.

    There can be issues of witnesses.  Will they persuade a jury or will their testimony be discounted by the jury?  Are they available?  Will they ‘show well’ to the jury?  Can they be easily impeached?

    Is a jury in this jurisdiction favorable to your position or that of your opponents?  And the list goes on.

    This can all be summed up by asking what your opponent will say about your case?

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #9: At what point will you know that the potential agreement is better than going to court?

    Task #9: At what point will you know that the potential agreement is better than going to court?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

     Task #9:

    • How will you know when you have arrived at a voluntary agreement that satisfies your interests?  
    • What objective criteria will you use to measure how well the agreements stratify your interests? 
    • At what point will you know that the potential voluntary agreement is better that using the court system to fight it out?

    As you participate in the mediation, it will be important for you to know when a voluntary agreement is near.  You need to realize the point in the mediation when you have satisfied your interests and that it now time to put the agreement into writing.  Work with your attorney on the answers to these questions and review them confidentially with the mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • A Recommendation from Australia

    A Recommendation from Australia

    A Recommendation from Australia is one of the privileges of teaching is getting feedback from my students’ years after I taught them.

    It gives me great pleasure to recommend Ken to a prospective employer for his experience and knowledge in law and for having great talent as an efficient and well-rounded speaker and educator.

     Micaela “Micki” Romero, Subjective Paralegal, Fiskville Independent Investigation,   Gisborne, Victoria, Australia

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #8: How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    Task #8: How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    Task #8: How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    Using your results from Tasks 6 and 7, what objective criteria could you use with the other parties to the mediation to develop a fair and constructive voluntary agreement to settle the matter?

    Mediation is not “splitting the baby” or just splitting the difference between the parties.  But it is composed of hard negotiations between the parties.  It is important to begin constructing for yourself just what a voluntary agreement between the parties would look like.  Remember each party will be doing the same, so each will have to believe that the settlement is fair to them as well.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2020 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.

  • Thoughts from an optimistic former student

    Thoughts from an optimistic former student

    Thoughts from an optimistic former student is one of the privileges of teaching is getting feedback from my students’ years after I taught them.  Here is a recent example:

    I am writing this letter to recommend Professor Ken Strongman for the Adjunct Professor at John F. Kennedy University. He is one of the best professors I have or will ever come across, in all aspects of teaching and personality. I know other students would agree with me.

    What I most admire about Professor Strongman is his remarkable ability to stimulate students and add personality to the course material. Students can feel his optimism. He treats everybody with respect and professionalism. His teaching style makes students listen attentively to him. He is also very organized. His assignments were clear and he would provide individual feedback to each student regarding mistakes/strong points.

    Professor Ken Strongman does not only teach exceptionally well but he also cares a lot about the level of understanding of each student. He is one of those rare professors that take the extra effort to make sure all students that need extra help are accommodated, despite his busy schedule. He is one of the most caring professors that I have ever known since I started the Paralegal Program at JFK University. He was very courteous and helpful with all the students. I really enjoyed learning from Mr. Strongman, and his qualities are countless.

    I understand that is up to the student to be successful in all the assignments, however, the effort of a professor makes all the difference in helping students reach their full potential. If we would have professors like Professor Ken Strongman teaching everything, then I am positive that every student will be eager to learn and go beyond expectations.

    Aldine Woodman, Legal Services Professional

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

    © 2013 Ken Strongman. All Rights Reserved. Please do not copy or repost without permission.