Ken Strongman, Esq. – Mediator

Tag: negociation

  • Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.

    Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie. The first step to resolve any conflict is to defuse anger.  But do not be afraid of anger.  An angry person can’t lie because anger is a primitive emotional response.  To lie, you must control your emotions and turn on your intellect.  So when someone…

  • What if you truly disagree upon with your opponents?

    Tasks for reaching a mediated settlement to a dispute The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs…

  • Thanksgiving Conflicts

    Thanksgiving Conflicts and How To Avoid them Thanksgiving conflicts reduces anyone’s ability to be thankful. Thanksgiving is sometimes referred to as forced family time. It is ripe for all kinds of potential conflicts.  Here are some things to minimize or avoid conflicts on the big day without lowering your expectations of being truly thankful.    …

  • The ingredients of any conflict – Feelings & Emotions

    All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on feelings and emotions. Feelings and emotions – Many people let their feelings and emotions become a major influence over how they…

  • Values – One of The ingredients of any conflict

    The ingredients of any conflict – Values Values are important within any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on values. Values are beliefs or principles we consider…

  • The ingredients of any conflict – Power

    The ingredients of any conflict is power The ingredients of any conflict is power. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on power. Power – How people define and…

  • Ingredients of conflict – Perceptions

    The ingredients of any conflict – Perceptions Perceptions are part of any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on perceptions. Perceptions – All humans interpret reality differently.…

  • Four characteristics a good mediator brings to the table.

    Four characteristics a good mediator brings to the table. This and many other topics will be revealed in: The “End Game” of Mediation and How to Succeed at It [A Comprehensive Road Map to the Mediation Process] on Tuesday, March 10, 4:30 pm – 8:30 pm @ the Contra Costa Bar Association. Speakers Ken Strongman,…

  • Seven advantages of a joint mediation session

    Seven advantages of a joint mediation session The 7 advantages of a joint mediation session and many other topics will be revealed in: The “End Game” of Mediation and How to Succeed at It [A Comprehensive Road Map to the Mediation Process] on Tuesday, March 10, 4:30 pm – 8:30 pm @ the Contra Costa…

  • Seven reasons to avoid a joint mediation session

    Seven reasons to avoid a joint mediation session This and many other topics will be revealed in: The “End Game” of Mediation and How to Succeed at It [A Comprehensive Road Map to the Mediation Process] on Tuesday, March 10, 4:30 pm – 8:30 pm @ the Contra Costa Bar Association. Speakers Ken Strongman, Esq.…