The ingredients of any conflict – Power

The ingredients of any conflict is power The ingredients of any conflict is power. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on power. Power – How people define and… Continue reading The ingredients of any conflict – Power

Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.

Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie. The first step to resolve any conflict is to defuse anger.  But do not be afraid of anger.  An angry person can’t lie because anger is a primitive emotional response.  To lie, you must control your emotions and turn on your intellect.  So when someone… Continue reading Don’t be afraid of anger – angry people can’t lie.

Values – One of The ingredients of any conflict

The ingredients of any conflict – Values Values are important within any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on values. Values are beliefs or principles we consider… Continue reading Values – One of The ingredients of any conflict

I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral. Most Mediators describe themselves as being a neutral.  It doesn’t help that the courts and clients expect us to be neutral and describes us as such.  But mediators in Europe have difficulty with the description. In the German Language the term for neutral most closely translates back… Continue reading I’m tired of being called a Mediation Neutral.

Listening is the best way to resolve conflicts.

The better the information you have, the greater your chances of finding a workable solution.  Listen carefully to what others are saying, not judging until you hear everyone’s story.  Be aware of tone of voice, body language, and other clues.  Understand what each person is expressing – what he wants and what he is willing… Continue reading Listening is the best way to resolve conflicts.

Ingredients of conflict – Perceptions

The ingredients of any conflict – Perceptions Perceptions are part of any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are Needs, Perceptions, Power, Values, and Feelings and Emotions. Today, I am focusing on perceptions. Perceptions – All humans interpret reality differently.… Continue reading Ingredients of conflict – Perceptions

Conflicts @Thanksgiving – How to Avoid

Thanksgiving conflicts reduces anyone’s ability to be thankful. Thanksgiving is sometimes referred to as forced family time. It is ripe for all kinds of potential conflicts.  Here are some things to minimize or avoid conflicts on the big day without lowering your expectations of being truly thankful.     ·     Realize that Norman Rockwell was a… Continue reading Conflicts @Thanksgiving – How to Avoid

Mediators Playing the Devil’s Advocate

Mediators Playing the Devil ’s Advocate Devil’s Advocate is one of the roles of a mediator. A good mediator such as myself, does not forfeit his personal opinions simply because he serves as a neutral facilitator. These opinions and preconceptions can help inform certain beliefs. However, a strong mediator knows how to view a case… Continue reading Mediators Playing the Devil’s Advocate

Needs: an ingredient of any conflict

Needs are ingredients of any conflict. All conflicts have similar ingredients. They may vary in degree but most are present in some way. The main ingredients are needs, perceptions, power, values, and feelings and emotions. Today, I am focusing on needs. Needs – Needs are physical requirements essential to our well-being. Conflicts arise when we… Continue reading Needs: an ingredient of any conflict

Resolving conflicts through negotiation

Resolving conflicts through negotiation. Resolving Conflict through negotiation is a part of life. Negotiation is how conflicts are resolved. Hopefully, they can be resolved peacefully and to the satisfaction of both parties to the conflict. Leaders’ skill set must include negotiation. Therefore, some of these blog postings will deal with ways a leader can help… Continue reading Resolving conflicts through negotiation