Tag: Ken Strongman
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How long should mediation take?
How long should mediation take? We have grown used to life happening instantaneously. What we forget is that despite all the fast and furious technology, we remain human beings. We may be more sophisticated overall, but are otherwise no different than we were thousands of years ago. Our thought processes and decision-making ability have not…
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Task #20: We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again?
Task #20: We all have buttons. We all have buttons. When pushed they have irritated you. If not, we would not be here at mediation. Therefore, what could they say or do in the mediation that would really tick you off all over again? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the…
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What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator?
When you hire me as your mediator, you are buying the opportunity, through a neutral third party, to evaluate with someone who is an objective “sounding board,” your real needs (personal, economic, spiritual, etc.) and to evaluate which dispute resolution process will best help you meet those needs. * You are buying my opinions and…
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Task #19: What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view?
Task #19: Credible evidence? What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in…
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Who should attend the mediation?
Who Should Attend the Mediation? All parties involved in the interactions that gave rise to the dispute should be involved in the mediation. This helps me, as mediator; crystallize with the parties exactly what happened. A party may also be more candid with me when they know they may be faced with others who know…
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Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?
Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically? Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs…
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Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?
Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute? As valuable as it is for me, as mediator, to know how to move a dispute to resolution, it is equally important, if not more so, for me to recognize when a dispute isn’t prepared for resolution and how to move it in the…
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Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence?
Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation. Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement. Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection…
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If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?
If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased? Absolutely not! I as mediator form opinions on many issues for many reasons. One of the primary things I do as mediator is to help you to evaluate the pros and cons of your position in a dispute…
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Arbitration, then Mediation, a way to blend them both.
Arbitration, then Mediation, a way to blend them both. Many view mediation as a one-way street. You conduct a mediation to settle a law suite. Nothing could be further from the truth. There are many ways to blend mediation with the legal system or blending it with other alternative dispute resolution processes to reduce or…