Ken Strongman, Esq. – Mediator

Tag: Business Mediation

  • What am I actually getting for my money when I hire a mediator?

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    When you hire me as your mediator, you are buying the opportunity, through a neutral third party, to evaluate with someone who is an objective “sounding board,” your real needs (personal, economic, spiritual, etc.) and to evaluate which dispute resolution process will best help you meet those needs.

    *    You are buying my opinions and impressions of “your first juror,” as to existing information/evidence and that which is non-existent.

    *    You are buying an opportunity to become more informed of the risks and benefits involved in resolving or litigating a dispute.

    *    You are buying an opportunity to address and resolve differences of opinion or expectation between you and your client, you and other professionals or between several clients (business partners, etc.).

    *    In addition, you are buying many things that can’t be quantified, unique to your particular dispute, which come with the intervention of an experienced neutral.

    I am usually hired as a mediator because of my perceived ability to resolve a dispute.

    Mediators don’t settle cases, parties do! What you are really buying are choices.  My value as a mediator is my expertise in guiding all of the parties involved in a dispute to a point where there are new, real and often difficult choices created. It is up to you to evaluate those choices, in light of the insights you gain through the mediation process, and choose that one which will end the dispute in the manner that brings you the most complete resolution. In getting to that point, whether that choice is to accept a proposed settlement or continue on the path to litigation, you have gotten “your money’s worth”.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #19: What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view?

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    Task #19: Credible evidence?

    What evidence can you bring to the mediation that will be credible to them and will help them see your point of view? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    It is useful to bring evidence to the mediation that will be credible to your opposition and will help them see your point of view.   This is at the very least your smoking gun.  But though it might be a smoking gun to you, it is important that they see it as such.  If this evidence would be admissible in court, then it would be best to send it to them way before the mediation.  By so doing, you might eliminate the need for the mediation itself.

    It is not necessary, despite the objections of the lawyers, that the evidence be admissible in court.  The beauty of mediation is that the parties can look at all of the evidence and then reach a decision.  The mediator and attorneys would help evaluate the evidence and its admissibility to determine possible settlement.

    They will also be bringing their own evidence to help you see their point of view, too.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Who should attend the mediation?

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    Who should attend the mediation?

     Who Should Attend the Mediation?

     All parties involved in the interactions that gave rise to the dispute should be involved in the mediation. This helps me, as mediator; crystallize with the parties exactly what happened. A party may also be more candid with me when they know they may be faced with others who know exactly what happened.

    It is essential that all insurance carriers are represented at the mediation and that they have full authority to settle the dispute.

    In addition, for parties to a dispute, letting go of emotion is often critical to the ability to resolve a dispute. An acknowledgement of damage or expression of remorse from an opposing party or a participant in the interactions that gave rise to the dispute (without any admission of liability, of course) can make the difference. This can’t usually be done by anyone but those personally involved in the dispute.

    Bringing your witnesses (party, corporate or independent) to a mediation (even if they spend all their time in a separate room), can accomplish some important things, particularly when the facts are in dispute or emotions run high. Meeting and speaking with witnesses allows a mediator to provide you with an opinion as to their credibility and the likelihood of their being persuasive with an arbitrator, judge or jury.

    Every situation is different and you should talk to me, your mediator to see what would be appropriate for your mediation.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

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    Task #18: Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically?

    Do you believe that they might owe you something specifically to restore or compensate for the betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    While many mediations come down to a money dance between the disputants, there are other things could be said or happen that would go a long way to resolving the dispute.   This is one of the great advantages to using mediation to resolve a dispute.  In the Courts, it is only money that can be used to make the parties whole.

    Often the one thing that could be done to restore or compensate for the betrayal and bad faith is an apology by one of the parties.  I have spent many hours in mediations working on apologies by one of the parties.  We will work on the wording to make sure it is sincere enough and can be said with enough feeling that the receivers of the apology believe and can accept the apology.  Some times both sides have apologized to each other.

    Though hours are spent on the apology, few are repeated outside of the mediation.  Occasionally, they might be embedding into the final settlement agreement.  Even then there might be a confidentiality clause included in that agreement.

    It is not only apologies that are done within mediation.  Recently, one party just wanted to speak their mind and just wanted the other party to listen.   In this mediation, we again spent time working on what would be said, how it would be said, the expected responses of the other party.  We even set a time limit on the speaking and any potential response.  Both sides did not want anything said that would inflame the situation.  It was quite successful.  No one used their entire time allotment and we proceeded to a complete settlement of the dispute.

    As always, sometimes it is just a fixed amount of money that will restore some good faith and remove the feeling of betrayal.  Though I have found that if this is coupled with an apology, the amount of money required is greatly reduced.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?

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    Stop the mediation?

     Why did the mediator stop the mediation without resolving the dispute?

    As valuable as it is for me, as mediator, to know how to move a dispute to resolution, it is equally important, if not more so, for me to recognize when a dispute isn’t prepared for resolution and how to move it in the right direction. With the exception of reaching resolution, this is one of the greatest benefits of mediation.

    Some of the most successful mediations are those in which the parties never even get to a discussion of money or resolution in the initial mediation session, but evaluate where the case is, where it needs to be and who needs to be involved, in order to achieve the greatest productivity in mediation. At this initial session, the parties through my guidance develop a plan with specific “homework” to be completed before reconvening at a different date.

    This “homework” may mean spending some time and money on investigation or making a more cooperative effort between the parties in sharing existing information. Regardless, once this is done, the dispute is usually postured for a realistic and informed evaluation. Often, once the “homework” is complete, further mediation becomes unnecessary and these matters are able to resolve through the efforts the parties alone.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence?

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    Task #17: How do you evaluate the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    Previously, you were asked to pin point the exact time and place for your sense of betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence in the agreement and other party.  That is important because there is usually a time and place when you realize the agreement that you had developed with the other party is not work according to your hopes and dreams.

    Now you need to determine how you evaluated the betrayal, bad faith or loss of confidence.  It is often the same evaluation process you used to develop the trust and good will of the original agreement.  Knowing how you evaluated both the original good will and now the betrayal will lead to possible solutions to the dispute.  Was it because they stopped looking you in the eye?  Was it a failure to return a phone call in a timely matter?  Was it a failure to respect you and your time, expertise or property?  With this knowledge you can then determine possible solutions to the dispute.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

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    My Opinion – Bias?

     

    If I, as mediator, give my opinion in a dispute, doesn’t that mean I am biased?

    Absolutely not!  I as mediator form opinions on many issues for many reasons.

    One of the primary things I do as mediator is to help you to evaluate the pros and cons of your position in a dispute and provide you with the information you need in order to make an educated decision about resolution. My opinion is critical to this process and will likely be based on the totality of the information from both sides, not merely that of one party. Although because of confidentiality, I may not be able to disclose the information to you, having an opinion from an unbiased source, based on such information may be very helpful to you in making choices.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Task #16: At what point did you first have any realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

    Ken Strongman Mediation tasks 05Task #16: At what point did you first have any realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    In the previous task, you spent time determining the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements.   Now we need to look at the point when you had your first realization of betrayal, bad faith, or loss of confidence.  This is generally one specific point of time and place.   It might have been building in the back of your mind for some time, but there is usually a point that you change your mind about the relationship with the other party.  It can be as simple as one phone call not returned, or a dirty look.  It is often after miss communication between the parties.

    Knowing when this missed communication occurred will be helpful to you in the mediation.  In one of my mediations, it was obviously a missed communication between the parties.  Both parties knew what the problem was and when it occurred.  With that knowledge they were able to correct the problem, restore trust and goodwill between themselves and quickly settle the dispute.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?

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    I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?

    I want to resolve the dispute, but the other party’s demands are unreasonable. What should I do?  Don’t let yourself get stuck refusing to make what you believe is a reasonable settlement offer or demand based on your opinion that the opposing party has made an unreasonable one! Instead, attempt to resolve disputes based on your reasonable evaluation. It is my job as mediator to assess, based on all the information presented, “the realm of the reasonable” in the context of potential resolution of each specific dispute and to bring the parties to that range.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Evaluate the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements.

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    Task #15: How did you evaluate the trust and goodwill that supported your original agreements?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    Particularly in business disputes whether they are real estate, construction defect, general business or even intellectual property issues, there would have been a meeting of the minds before the deal was done.   That is the essence of a contract.  To get to meeting of the minds you would have had to evaluate the other party and their proposal.  More specifically you have to decide if you can trust them to carry out their side of the bargain.  With this task you need to go back and look at the trust and good will that was developed when you made the contract.  What made you trust them in the first place?  What did they say and or do to generate your trust in them?

    This is important because you may want an ongoing relationship with them after this dispute is resolved.  On the other hand you may not want to have a business relationship with them but out of necessity be forced to have a business relationship.

    By evaluating the good will you will be able to see what was good in the original deal.   It will also help you evaluate the eventual settlement agreement that you and they will be developing within the mediation.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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