Ken Strongman, Esq. – Mediator

Category: Preliminary Tasks for a Mediation

What mediation participants can do to prepare for a successful mediation.

  • Navigating Conflict: Unveiling the Power of Perceptions

    Navigating Conflict: Unveiling the Power of Perceptions

    Power of Perceptions

    In the tumultuous landscape of conflicts, one-word echoes louder than the rest: Perceptions. They weave through the fabric of every disagreement, dictating our understanding, reactions, and solutions. Just as a prism refracts light into a spectrum of colors, perceptions refract reality into a myriad of interpretations, guiding our paths through the maze of discord. Let’s delve deeper into the intricate role perceptions play in the complex dynamics of conflict.

    Perceptions form the cornerstone of any conflict, serving as the lens through which individuals view the world around them. As humans, we interpret reality through the unique filter of our own experiences, beliefs, and values. Whether it’s the severity of a problem, its underlying causes, or its potential consequences, perceptions shape our understanding at every turn. From the moment a conflict arises, perceptions assert their influence, coloring our interactions and shaping the trajectory of resolution.

    Consider the scenario: two parties embroiled in a heated debate over a contentious issue. Each holds steadfast to their perspective, convinced of the righteousness of their cause. Yet, beneath the surface lies a chasm of differing perceptions, fueled by personal biases, cultural backgrounds, and past experiences. What one perceives as a minor inconvenience, the other views as a grave injustice. In this clash of perceptions, the seeds of conflict find fertile ground to take root and flourish.

    Moreover, perceptions extend beyond individual viewpoints to encompass a broader spectrum of influences. Geographic locations, historical contexts, religious beliefs—each adds another layer to the intricate tapestry of perceptions that shape our understanding of the world. As we sit at the table of conflict resolution, these diverse perspectives converge, each vying for recognition and validation.

    In the realm of conflict resolution, the art of reframing emerges as a potent tool for navigating the maze of perceptions. By shifting the frame through which a problem is viewed, mediators can challenge entrenched perceptions, opening the door to new possibilities and avenues for resolution. Through thoughtful dialogue and empathetic understanding, they guide parties towards a shared reality—one where perceptions no longer divide, but unite in pursuit of common ground.

    As we reflect on the myriad conflicts that engulf our world, it becomes evident that perceptions wield immense power—power to divide or unite, to inflame passions or foster empathy. In embracing the diversity of perceptions that shape our experiences, we pave the way for meaningful dialogue and sustainable solutions.

    In conclusion, let us not underestimate the transformative potential of perceptions in the landscape of conflict. As we strive for resolution, let us heed the call to embrace empathy, understanding, and the willingness to challenge our own perceptions. Only then can we navigate the turbulent waters of conflict towards a horizon of peace and reconciliation.

    Call to Action: Are you embroiled in a conflict that seems insurmountable? Reach out to Ken Strongman, an experienced mediator, to guide you towards a resolution grounded in understanding and empathy. Your journey towards peace begins today.

    About the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) is a private commercial mediator/arbitrator of complex, high risk litigated cases since 2004. Disputes addressed include business, securities, construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, employment, environment, energy, and trusts & estates. He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA and president of The Mediation Society.

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  • Mastering Negotiation Strategies: Important Understanding for Successful Mediation

    Mastering Negotiation Strategies: Important Understanding for Successful Mediation

    Important Understanding

    Unlocking the intricacies of successful mediation hinges upon a fundamental element: ‘important understanding.’ As you embark on the journey of dispute resolution, envision a landscape where each word, responsibility, and relationship detail matters. Imagine wielding the power of preparation, the art of negotiation, and the strategic finesse needed to navigate through disputes.

    What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together? This pivotal question sets the stage for every mediation journey. It beckons each party to introspect, recalling the initial perceptions and expectations woven into the fabric of their engagement. The resolution of a dispute, however, doesn’t simply unravel in the mediation room’s confines. It sprawls across meticulous preparations, strategic negotiations, and astute discussions—one crucial aspect being the alignment of perspectives. From delineating working conditions to defining decision-making prerogatives and encompassing factors like time, money, rights, and duties, these facets demand clarity to lay the groundwork for a satisfying solution.

    Moreover, the essence of relationships surfaces as a vital catalyst in this context. Reflecting on the genesis of a once harmonious alliance, it becomes imperative to understand the underpinnings of why it was deemed ‘good.’ Even amidst commercial disputes tethered to contracts, leases, or employment intricacies, the quality of relationships—whether familial or interpersonal—serves as a fulcrum. It extends beyond mere contract-based conflicts, resonating through personal injury cases and intellectual property disputes, encapsulating the essence of expectations and the ethos of rights.

    Therefore, the crux of effective dispute resolution lies in comprehending initial expectations. Without this cornerstone, the path to a gratifying solution becomes arduous and convoluted, leading to potential impasse.

    As you navigate the realm of mediation, remember that understanding is the cornerstone of resolution. Embrace the power of preparation, negotiation, and clear communication to pave the way for amicable resolutions. Should you find yourself amidst a dispute or negotiation seeking guidance, Ken Strongman stands ready to navigate these waters with you. Reach out today to embrace a journey towards equitable solutions and collaborative outcomes. Contact Ken Strongman, the experienced mediator, to embark on your path to resolution.

    About the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) is a private commercial mediator/arbitrator of complex, high risk litigated cases since 2004. Disputes addressed include business, securities, construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, employment, environment, energy, and trusts & estates. He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA and president of The Mediation Society.

  • What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together?

    What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together?

    What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together? The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    What important understanding did you think you had when you originally got involved together? This is the understanding from at least from your own point of view.  These can include working conditions, responsibilities, which one was to make the final decisions, time, money, rights, duties and working conditions.

    You developed or already had a relationship with the other party.  At some point it was a good relationship.  Why did you think it was a good relationship?

    This is obviously important if the subject matter of the dispute is commercial.  In other words it is based on a contract, lease, employment, insurance, agreement to buy, etc. It is still important even if the dispute is not based upon contract.  For example it could be based on a family relationship.   It even goes beyond that to personal injury and intellectual property disputes.  For example, when you enter a grocery store, it is usually your understanding that you will not slip on a banana peal.  Likewise, when you create something, you expect to receive credit for the creation.

    Therefore, it is always important to understand your expectations at the beginning.  Without that understanding, it will be difficult to create a solution that is satisfying.

    Ken_Strongman_003smAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • What is the weakness in your case?

    What are the weaknesses in your case?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    What are the weaknesses in your case?

    In this exercise, your attorney will need to take the lead in preparing your answer.  It is important that you understand its impact on your position.

    You need to articulate all of the weaknesses in your case.  These can be issues of law.  I have seen issues that involve the statute of limitations.  Other times, I have seen where the original complaint did not name the correct defendants.   These may be extreme examples, but no case is perfect.

    There can be issues of evidence.   It can be simple lack of evidence to support your claims.  It can be the credibility of the evidence.  Is it admissible or will its admissibility be challenged.   Seldom is there enough credible evidence to support each element of the claim.  Likewise defenses have their weaknesses as well.

    There can be issues of witnesses.  Will they persuade a jury or will their testimony be discounted by the jury?  Are they available?  Will they ‘show well’ to the jury?  Can they be easily impeached?

    Is a jury in this jurisdiction favorable to your position or that of your opponents?  And the list goes on.

    This can all be summed up by asking what your opponent will say about your case?

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • At what point will you know that the potential agreement is better than going to court?

    At what point will you know that the potential agreement is better than going to court?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

     Questions:

    • How will you know when you have arrived at a voluntary agreement that satisfies your interests?  
    • What objective criteria will you use to measure how well the agreements stratify your interests? 
    • At what point will you know that the potential voluntary agreement is better that using the court system to fight it out?

    As you participate in the mediation, it will be important for you to know when a voluntary agreement is near.  You need to realize the point in the mediation when you have satisfied your interests and that it now time to put the agreement into writing.  Work with your attorney on the answers to these questions and review them confidentially with the mediator.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    How will you know you have developed an agreement at the end of the mediation?

    What objective criteria could you use with the other parties to the mediation to develop a fair and constructive voluntary agreement to settle the matter?

    Mediation is not “splitting the baby” or just splitting the difference between the parties.  But it is composed of hard negotiations between the parties.  It is important to begin constructing for yourself just what a voluntary agreement between the parties would look like.  Remember each party will be doing the same, so each will have to believe that the settlement is fair to them as well.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Do you agree on anything?

    Do you agree on anything?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

     What do you and the other parties agree upon? 

    These can be significant or minor issues in the dispute.   Anything will do.  The purpose is to build a voluntary resolution to the dispute.

    Can you agree that there is a dispute?  If you can’t agree to that there is a dispute, then what will we have to do to have a successful mediation?

    Other more obvious agreements might be:  Is there a written contract?  Is this the contract?  Does each party have enough information to evaluate the case?  Can you agree on dates, times, people involved significantly in the dispute?.

    Be prepared to not only share your results with you attorney but with the mediator as well.  Because of your efforts now, at the mediation you will be able to cut though to a voluntary agreement almost effortlessly.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • What do you truly disagree upon with your mediation opponents?

    What do you truly disagree upon with your mediation opponents?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    What do you truly disagree upon with your mediation opponents?

    In a previous task, you were asked to search for some potential common ground you might have with your mediation opponents to help facilitate a voluntary agreement to settle this matter.   Now you need to flip the question around and come up with the significant issues that you disagree upon.

    Strangely enough this will help the mediator to focus the mediation session upon the real and lasting issues of the dispute.   Then everyone can focus on the task at hand to develop together a voluntary agreement to resolve the dispute.  For example, breach of contract might be agreed upon, but whether it is a major or minor breach is the true disagreement.  Likewise, there might not be a disagreement on liability but it is the measure of damages that is the true dispute.   Even then, there might be considerable agreement.

    Review these disagreements with your attorney and confidentially with the mediator.

    Ken StrongmanAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • Do you really want to settle this dispute through mediation?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    The purpose of mediation is to reach a voluntary agreement with the other parties.  It is not something imposed upon the parties by the mediator. It’s your choice to decide to reach a voluntary agreement rather than to continue to fight.

    Can you work towards a voluntary agreement if it would satisfy your interests and the interests of the other parties?

    You will need to discuss this issue with your attorney and the mediator.  If you are not willing to cooperate with the other parties to find a voluntary solution to the problem, then your attorney and the mediator need to decide if a mediation session at this time is appropriate.   It would not benefit you, if you were not willing to arrive at a solution the dispute.

    As the mediator, I would want to discuss with you and your attorney what the impediments to reaching a solution to the problem.   Once these impediments are identified, we can develop potential solutions.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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  • How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    The resolution of a dispute does not just occur on the day of the mediation.   Each participant to mediation needs to prepare their own strategy for negotiation in the settlement.  Based on my experience as a mediator, these are a collection of tasks each participant needs to complete and to discuss with their council and the mediator before the mediation.

    These tasks and the discussion with the mediator are confidential.   They are confidential under both Attorney Client privilege and under mediation confidential provisions in court rules, statutes, and standards.

    How are you going to deal with them after the dispute?

    In the previous task, you were asked to describe what you wanted life and/or business to look like five years after the dispute has been resolved.   This task is more focused on how you are going to deal with your opponents five to ten years after the dispute is resolved.

    The easy answer to this question is that ‘I never want anything to do with them again.’  If the dispute is an automobile accident then that might work as an answer.  But if your opponents are commercial suppliers, customers, fellow businesses in a limited market, employees or employers, neighbors, and even family, the question becomes a lot more challenging.

    I have mediated boundary line and other disputes between neighbors.  It becomes a lot more difficult to resolve when both neighbors realize that they will still be living next door to each other for possibly decades.  I have also mediated disputes with family owned business.  They had to take into account the likelihood of having to sit down for Thanksgiving dinner with each other.  There were also the unintended impacts on other family relationships that were not in dispute.  Commercial enterprises need to evaluate the publicity of the dispute and the possible need for an on going business relationship now and in the future.

    Carefully list and count the costs regarding different solutions to the dispute.  Might there be a better settlement that reduces future conflict.  Also evaluate the costs of litigating the dispute to its conclusion on the future relationship to your opponents.

    Ken Strongman, MediatorAbout the Author: Ken Strongman (www.kpstrongman.com) has years of experience and a growing national reputation as a mediator and arbitrator.  He has successfully resolved more than a thousand disputes in the fields of construction defects, real estate, intellectual property, and employment.  He is also a Mediator and Arbitrator for FINRA.

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